How To Get Your Ex Boyfriend or Girlfriend to Return Your Calls

Published: 22nd September 2008
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Have you been the victim of a recent breakup? Maybe a couple weeks have passed by now. You're still hurting and you feel that you're still in love with your ex and want them back in your life. Problem is they're not returning any of your calls, messages or texts.

Would you believe it if I told you that there are certain known tactics and "magic words" that you can employ that will make it almost impossible for your ex boyfriend or girlfriend NOT to return your calls?

I know what you're thinking, this all sounds very hokey and unbelievable. That doesn't matter. Believe or disbelieve what you will. If your ex boyfriend or girlfriend is human, there are ways you can appeal to their own "human nature" that they will almost magically be compelled to respond to. Okay, I'll admit it doesn't work 100% of the time, but try the following and see for yourself what kind of response you get.

I'm happy to share this getting back together advice with you because it directly addresses one of the most commonly asked questions I get from regular everyday men and women who've broken up and are now attempting to rebuild their relationship with their ex.

What is one of the most common questions you ask? By far and away it's "How do I get
my ex to return my phone calls, text messages or IM's?"

One Word of Caution!!

By only using this technique by itself, without implementing a complete plan of strategies that work together, it's very possible that you could actually cause more damage to the remnants of your ex relationship, even more so than if your ex never returned your calls in the first place. Are you still game? Good! I'll reveal the getting back together plan I would use at the end of this story, but for now here's what you want to do...are you ready?

Here's What You Don't Want To Do...

Okay, so before you say the "magic words" that you should say (in this case as a voice message you leave for your ex), first it's good for you to know the kind of voice messages that just about NEVER work.

These types of wrong messages will also trap YOU in an uncomfortable psychological pickle that you don't want to be in when you're trying to get your ex back.

These messages usually fall into 2 categories.

The Desperate Begging Plea - It sounds something like this...

"Kevin, c'mon please call me back, please!! I've left something like ten messages for you and haven't heard back. Please, I really need to talk to you. Please call me back!!"

The second type of "wrong" message is the super panicky "This is an Emergency" message...

"Susan, this is Ron. I really need to talk to you right away!! It's an emergency! Call me as soon as you get this, please!!."

When you take a step back and read the above messages, I think you'll agree it's pretty clear what's wrong with either type of message. Would you call back? Probably not. You're probably going to be running really fast, far, far away. But people make this desperate phone message mistake all the time after a breakup. Chances are this approach will not be getting you back together with your ex anytime soon (if you ever hear from them again at all).

Okay, you get the point so I'm not going to harp on it further.

Here's the approach you should take to get your ex to call you back...

Using Human Nature Wisely by Keying on Both Curiosity & Self Interest
As Points of Weakness that will work in Your Advantage.

You already know what curiosity and self interest are. They are inherent human traits. Guess what, the bonus is they are some of the most irresistible human characteristics that can be taken advantage of to work in your favor in terms of getting back with your ex.

Even better is that, mixing both curiosity and self interest together and using them in the right way, you'll have an effective and irresistible blueprint for getting your ex to call you back. Want to see how this can work with your ex? Here we go...and remember, this tactic will work almost 100% of the time if you do it correctly.

You dial up your ex on your phone and here's what you say...

"Susan, Hi it's Ron. Hey, give me a call when you get a sec. What you did for me the other day was very cool and I wanted to let you know I appreciated it. I'd really like to thank you personally, so if you get a chance tomorrow or Sunday, give me a call.

With this type of message, both curiosity and self interest are having an effect on your ex as they listen to the voice message. How would you react? Could you resist calling back to find out just what you did that your ex appreciates? It sounds like it must be a good thing so you'd probably call wanting to find out what it is wouldn't you? Aren't you curious to find out the good you did for someone else? In the background, wouldn't you be wondering a little why they asked you to call back tomorrow or Sunday? What about tonight or Saturday? Do they have a lot of interesting stuff going on in their life? Hmmm. Doesn't sound like they called you in a desperate, sad and sorry pleading panic does it?

This approach will most likely work in getting your ex to call you back. Try it and see. But wait!! First, you need to plan out the "thing" your ex did that you appreciate and want to thank them for. It can be any small thing they did directly or indirectly for you recently. Something that's had some effect on you that you can make them feel good about doing (whether they knew they were doing something nice or not). You're in control at this point so make it good.

Here's my final point in using this tactic to get your ex to return your calls...

Make sure you have a solid blueprint to follow that will give you all the steps to getting beyond that first step of getting my ex to call me back. That's the starting point and it's breaking that ice that opens the door to getting back with your ex. But to follow through and make it successful, have a plan that's worked for others and will most likely work for you and your ex as well. Without a strategic plan that walks you step by step through the getting back together maze, you can do more damage than good. Since you know now how to get them to call you back, find out how to get them back. You can and will be able to do it.

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